PAUL MONIZ: Can you know ahead of time how you are going to react in terms of the type of person you are? Is that the danger that people get into is they don't know when they have bitten off more than they can chew, so to speak?
WILLY WIENER, PhD: I don't know if it's about biting off more than they can chew. I think certain people have ways of thinking about things that give rise to stress. Rules, rigid scripts that they have running in their head.
PAUL MONIZ: Such as?
WILLY WIENER, PhD: Such as...
FRANCIS MASSINO, PhD: Punctuality, if I may jump in. Some people are very rigid about time. Not wanting to be late to a movie, for instance. And other people say, "Well if I get there a couple of minutes late, it's not that big of a deal." But that's one.
Other people don't really worry about getting to work on time, taking a lunch break at a prescribed hour. So other people are much more flexible in their thinking about time. That's one that we see that comes up.
WILLY WIENER, PhD: That illustrates the point well and aside from the merits of being on time, it illustrates the point that the way you think about it can change the way you feel about it. If you believe everything must be on time all the time, then when something is 10 minutes late, you're liable to be stressed out, angry, and depressed about it. If your attitude is "Well, I strive for that all the time, but sometimes it doesn't happen and that's okay," you're going to be much more relaxed in the face of that kind of event.